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 For the sake of p.c. diplomacy no one wants to remark on the benefits--yes, the benefits---the loot, the goodies, the cookies, the booty, the general all-around perks of being an attractive transgender woman in society. While I personally commemorate males who do elect to undergo such an emotionally trying commitment, not totally unlike my own as a zeta male and MGTOW, despite societal norms of sexual behavior, I've decided to look at the less psychological and more social incentives to part ways with their pound of flesh: the societal cookies given involuntarily to every single plucky, comely dame who used to dangle.

For a start, men are systemically penalized for their genitals. It's dubbed every disparaging adjective under the sun, relentlessly, endlessly: it's too droopy, too shrimpy, too skinny, too soft, too hard--it leans right, it leans left: and, you know, it's much more sexually fetching when it's fleeced and missing a foreskin, boys. Said the Christian majority.

 Whereas a women's genitals no matter how aesthetically unsettling or misshapen are almost completely immune to any popular derision. The very concept of cracking wise at a woman's rose-colored face hugger* is never on the table. Maintenance wise a penis is more hygienically user friendly, yes; and, hell, it's more user friendly sexually, capable of orgasm with far less stimuli: but one advantage a woman's genitals afford them is very simple...the pressures of girth aren't even possible. The standards for a vagina's visual appeal are significantly more lax. Obviously women self impose higher standards regarding the rest of their sex appeal, but that's another story.

 I'm just saying it's not enough when it's skinned, big and rigid as the stick up the pope's ass, men still have to deal with snarks that our bits and pieces are still inherently ugly...it only comes in one stock, ladies. You can change the color of the car, you can put the hood up or take it down, but you can't change the model, understand? With so much derogation against the very sexual organs of men, is it any wonder some of them are raised disgusted and disenchanted by their sexuality? That they might opt to assume the physical characteristics of a more socially glorified gender? Obviously transgender women are the by-product of a genetic phenomenon that is perfectly human and healthy. Even though  it's only now, in a more genteel juncture in human history, finding purchase as another element of human sexuality. I would never relegate transsexuality simply to self hate or sexual frustration; but conversely I can't deny the relief from that burden transsexuality provides.* Just to name one perk for putting down a prick and picking up a clit.

 Another reason is simple...women are loved automatically. Even if it is a cursory or a perfunctory appreciation...it's still nicer to be liked for just being alive then when you're serving or risking your life for someone else. Again, it's not an incentive necessarily to be transgendered---the process is expensive and psychologically grueling---but, to be fair, there probably is something wonderful about crying and having people bother to ask what's wrong instead of demanding you simply pick your dick up and get back to work. Having half the human populace scramble its jets for you when someone calls you a name is probably nice, too. Also not having to pay for your place at a table for two; and being able to slam the door in some schmuck's face at the end of the night--and doing it all without a menstrual cycle to answer to, sounds like a lifestyle not entirely without appeal. I'm just saying. To say transgender women aren't catching rays off the almighty vagaygay's nimbus of social deification would be disingenuous. To say that there are some societal perks to being a woman that a former man would be painfully aware of and might, if so inclined, exploit or just enjoy...again that would be a lie. To say that society wouldn't sexualize his decision and the resulting physical hallmarks thereof would require blinders at the check out line of any given convenient store; because to say that would be to ignore the majority of film, television and literature throughout history: because at a glance, the world can't see the sum of a transgendered woman's parts, just her parts. A firemen will prioritize her over a man's safety. In a hostage crisis, she will go with the other women and children. And in the case of a sinking ship she will be a mile away before the cellos are done playing.

 Of course, (I'll say it once, I'll say it again) I'm not saying that every man swapping his ball bag for a snatch is doing it out of the express lust for swag and societal adulation and safety...even if that adulation and safety is mostly because society merely thinks he's a woman; and not in the personal identity sense; but in the double x chromosome kind of way: which I'm sure doesn't bother her much given, well, ideally people shouldn't see her as a man. Just a woman; and some people, lamentably, can't handle the transition as well as others. To some it's societal sacrilege, because a transgendered women is enjoying all the cookies of having one without...actually having one for realsies: this isn't a barren woman, this is a woman completely without a womb. The only thing that deifies women sexually is their plumbing, take that away and a woman is basically no more special than a man. Of course, women have always asserted the identity of a woman regardless of her fertility, as have men; but a transgendered woman...that's a woman that was never going to bear a child: this conflicts with millennia of social programming. Society bristles at these individuals because of the precedent they set: that men can cheat the system by wearing a skirt and a pair of plastic mammories to work. Obviously this is a crude slant by the social psyche about a truly brave life decision but I can't say as a Christian priest I didn't see it observed on a subtextual level. Especially among the zealous. The Christian majority still sees transgendered people as depraved beyond words.

  To a point I think some men do indulge in cross dressing and transgender behavior--not the transformation, the behavior--because they've been ingrained with a systemic disdain for their sexuality. Ergo, to be objectified they simply must assume the guise or at least affectations of a woman. Men even when sexualized are still eroticized by their agency, by their capacity to serve others: a woman, however, is eroticized for her gender at the end of the day; and to a point this has everything to do with gynocentrism and its go-to codes of male behavior. You see, for a man merely to be objectified, to be seen as a sexually desirable object alone, eroticized not for his utility but rather his sheer nature as a man, was to prize his gendered appeal more than his societal role. This wasn't and still isn't acceptable to many men and women. Men cannot be seen solely as objects, to be protected and provided for, to be admired simply for being male. Because masculinity is test-proven and female approved. Is it any wonder why a man would covet the sexual traits of women? To some it's the only way to be wanted for what they are not who they are.

  I repeat that transgendered women come in all shapes and sizes and from graphically different walks of life. Many don't discover their true identity until middle aged and married. Some are as young as 12 when they're first exposed to hormone therapy let alone surgery. The youngest transgendered woman in the world (German) was required to be at least 16 before the definitive medical procedures could be undergone. It's always brutal reconciling one's self with their sexuality in a puritanical society that still principally denies that sexual preference is subject to the individual. That barring abuse there is no such thing as "immoral" erotic stimulation. There's stimulation more tastefully presented, but that's of course subject to self awareness and the rule of guilty pleasures. Transgendered women still face alienation for simply satisfying their personal identity and their inherent and personal sexual diets. It is a tasking alteration in life style that comes with causalities and consequences. And a monetarily costly one to boot. Which means many who rightly deserve to be transformed cannot be so.

 Still, to the single attractive post-op tranny working a partly unbuttoned blouse and pencil skirt that snaps every curve, there are obvious perks to being noticed simply for entering the room; and not as a potential threat, but as a welcomed element, an honored guest. There's giddy exhilaration to be sure when men jockey for her attention and approval, an anxious electricity. She is the recipient of a love by men and women that simply was impossible as a male: she has gained the capacity, the perceived birth right, to simply stand next to a woman without being seen as an object of ridicule and suspicion. Simply for the bits that once swung between her knees--her transformation means not being loathed for being different than a woman, for not being held under trial by all men wanting to throw her under the bus: it's social glorification for simply being herself, a woman. Give or take a few years confusion, some therapy, some therapy involving hormones and a surgery or three. I don't assume anybody would pursue transsexuality solely for the cookies of womanhood, but, I can't deny they wouldn't be attainable with womanhood once achieved.

 

*From 'Alien' for those who think I'm talking about sitting on someone's face or getting sixty-nined.

*Of course, I realize that some trannies elect to retain their sexual organs natural but many remove them in commitment to the gender swap. Nor am I suggesting that transgendered women aren't burdened with the reality of their transformation regardless of their appearance or personal identification: but I also acknowledge that the world can't automatically see their y chromosome and penalize them for it; and that a transgendered woman's genetic identity is her secret to keep.

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Shadizar666 Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013
I couldn't finish it, and here's why...

I understand that you try to define the difference between TS and "men who do it cuzz...". However, it's misguided; men will cross-dress, which is different from TS. You don't remove your junk on a whim.

Next, TS are at high risk of suicide before they reach "completion". Not being the gender they mentally/emotionally wired for, and being expected to fill the role of the gender they were born to is brutal. They don't "act" the other gender, they ARE the other gender.

Finally, you may have touched on it in the second half, but I didn't get that far. This completely ignores the women who become men, the FtM's. Those women who get their tits hacked off, and junk sewn on, and a strict regiment of testosterone injections.

Please... you're standing in the middle of a mine field, carefully retrace your steps back out.
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codyrush Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013  Student Filmographer

Um, I did distinguish that. I didn't try. I did. Ad nauseum. I said over and over that transgender men do NOT lop off their johnsons on a dare. Their reasons are tremendously sentimental and psychologically personalized, and ultimately have to do with their identity as a person. If you can show me, show me don't tell, where I postured anything otherwise, please, kindly do: because I'm dying to meet this suspect sentence personally.

 I have done nothing but champion these very brave women for their lifestyle choice; but, and you wouldn't know this because apparently being offended by something excuses your ignorance of it (interesting given the fact you're posturing sensitivity toward a demographic that is highly misunderstood.) I did say that...yeah, to a degree being perceived a sexually attractive women is, in society, the license to be treated as a human being, tendered compassion and concern simply for being human. When a transgendered woman hops on a life boat...nobody thinks twice that she DESERVES that seat. When she stands next to a child at the park, nobody assumes automatically she's a potential threat, a pedophile. Like they would have if she didn't have tits and a vage and plainly looked to be in possession of both. All I did was point out that...yeah, that's a perk for havin' a makeshift poon. Am I supposed to lie about that and act like that's not true? Also, yes, cross dressing---rather one of its many incentives---was explained in the second half of the essay. You'd know that if you read it.

 I don't care about transgendered men...because I wasn't talking about them. But if you want I can talk about them. Honestly? I pity them, pity them for taking on the real responsibilities men have to face when they've never had to before.

  Being a man in society is very different than being a woman, sir or madam. For one thing we have a 1/4 chance of cancer according to the CDC. We make up 90% of work place accidents. 70% of us in the U.S. are circumcised, even though our genitals are 20 times more sensitive; and that happens to us on day one of living.  We're 80% of the homeless. We're 95% of the imprisoned. We make up the lion share of alimony and child support payments in this country. We lost 30% of our jobs during the recession. We're the majority of the depressed and we're much, much more likely to commit suicide. We also make up, according to a national survey, the majority of raped in the country just through prison alone. Of course that's a survey, so take it with a grain of salt. Also, according to the CDC we're also more likely, by far, to be abused and assaulted by women, especially our intimate partners. Even though we're the most likely to be arrested in the case of a domestic dispute, wherein the larger of the two parties is immediately detained. 75% percent of domestic violence is initiated by women. It's 60/40 for repeat assault, 60% being women. That's the CDC talking, based on a survey of 18,000 people, 11,000 of them being couples. Oh, and good luck to these transgendered men if they're ever in an abusive relationship, because...there is no sanctuary for them: there are few, very few battered men shelters in this country. And almost no police will ever take them seriously; and that includes judges and lawyers. And all thanks to the penis they committed to have. Oh! And if they do find a female spouse... guess who can no-fault divorce and take at least half or more of their shit?

 I pity and respect these men because it is damn hard being a man; and to chose to be one willingly and at such a high cost to sanity and security....it's mind-boggling the amount of sacrifice it takes. The sheer sense of unflinching identity required. Being a man, in this society, to quote Chris Rock, is standing in front of a mirror everyday and saying "FUCK YOU! Fuck your hopes, fuck your dreams, fuck everything you thought you needed or wanted: now let's go out there and try to make this bitch happy." Society sees women as objects and men as appliances. As men, our utility is our value in the eye's of society; and our utility is determined by our potential, our capacity, to provide and protect women: and the minute we're useless, we're worthless; and it's on the trash pile we go. A woman's got to have some serious balls to agree to a life like that.

You "couldn't" finish it, and here's why"? Really? So what, this is on me that you couldn't finish? You "couldn't" finish it because I didn't beat the men-who-change-into-women-do-it-for-deep-personal-reasons horse a little more than I did? Because I didn't bring up transgendered men, because (as the title of the essay plainly attested) that wasn't my topic of discussion?---see this is what's annoying me is the implication: that I failed somehow, not you, because you WOULDN"T finish.

 Um. No. And condescension doesn't incentivize me. It just makes me mad.

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Shadizar666 Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013
I suppose I should clarify...

I didn't finish reading it because you write like shit. I spent too much time trying to glean the point out of caveat fuzzery and a vague concept which comes across as a drunken stupor. Yes, I may have misinterpreted what you tried to convey, but that's hardly the fault of the reader, but rather the writer.

Offense has nothing to do with the topic. I'm more offended at not being able to read through your post and reply, than I am at the possibility that either of us may be blatantly wrong. Perhaps if you were to remove the caveats, and posted the concept naked (like your response was, minus the first paragraph, I'm still scratching my head on that)... I don't know.
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codyrush Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013  Student Filmographer

Frankly no. No, I don't really want to talk to you. I have opinions, yes, and many, but you're not worth my time to articulate them. You've been thoroughly terrible and I really don't have to deal with you.

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Shadizar666 Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013
Well it's a good thing I wasn't trying then.
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CrimsonFALKE Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
well said
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codyrush Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Student Filmographer

Do you think I clarified I wasn't derogating transgendered women enough, 'cause...I really don't think I did.

 

 Actually I hoped that last paragraph really hit the nail on the head: that men are being feminized--assimilated as the Borg, would put it---exterminated as the Dalleks, would say---to the point where some of us don't feel comfortable being men at all; where it feels the only way to be treated like a person is to become as female as possible: that's how egotistical feminism has gotten, how misandric the world's become. That the only way to receive the sun of society and not the moon--the part that's all ass with no end in sight--is to be a women at all times. Otherwise you're immediately under scrutiny and suspicion...can women in America even imagine what's that's like? To have the whole world say you're either an appliance or a threat? And the minute you're not useful, you're not carrying someone else's weight, out you go? who wouldn't want to be relieved of that? Obviously that's not the cause of transgendered women typically but I'm just saying...their transformation allows them to be seen as just a person. A man transformed into an attractive woman can just stand next to child and nobody will think twice about it. They can stand next to a woman and nobody will care. The world will not judge her for her genitals. At least not in the negative; and at least not right off the bat.

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CrimsonFALKE Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well I honestly rarely give much thought to the concepts of "privilege" as it is to generalizing. However you did point out that there is a forced feminization of men through social conditioning starting at young ages in our schools. This seems to point that out so the harshness really isn't an insult but drawing a bit of awareness to the fact men are starting to feel uncomfortable as men.
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codyrush Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Student Filmographer
Look up my journal 'Feminist statistics' and 'where have all the good men gone'. I think you'll enjoy them both immensely.
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CrimsonFALKE Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I like the infidelity one, but seriously if a man marries and doesn't get  regular sex/intimate attention then what should he do just suck it up or go and find someone who cares?
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